Unbidden Lessons

With my daughter’s recent graduation and forthcoming cross-country move, I’ve been somewhat reflective.  It’s caught me by surprise how we’ve suddenly found ourselves with a grown daughter who is about to flee the nest for big dreams and adventures.  Guess we always figured we’d have our kids here with us, because that’s how we’ve known it for so long.

As she and her classmates split up and disperse for different colleges and different paths, I’m reminded how she’s about to learn one of life’s lessons.  There are people we meet and relationships that we build which last for a chapter (or chapters) of our lives, and there are those that remain a constant thread throughout.

Consistently, life's pleasantries and moments of joy are dependent on the dramatis personae that share your stage.  So, it is with a forlorn mixture of emotions that I consider all the remarkable people that have sat next to me in life before moving on to other places and other times.  I miss so many of them.

Honestly, I've been quite fortunate to know exceptional people whose friendships were bright and warming -- whose frequent and uplifting presence never seemed to last long enough.

Relationships can make your life wonderful and joyous in a way that may even make you feel undeserving at times.  So, placing your bottom line elsewhere may also misplace your opportunity for true happiness.

Here’s how I was trying to process it.  Too many, I think, heavily weight the notion that a chosen vocation is a means of determining their value in an unofficial caste system of financial and social worth.  Yes.  Do something that makes you happy.  That is, your work should be fulfilling, and your job ought to revolve around something at which you are skilled.  But, without good people, it will always be shallow and empty.  Sure.  You could make a lot of money and have the best of personal gadgetry and property.  But, you need exceptional and uplifting people to enrich your world.

An important threshold in life is understanding the role and value of relationships, in my humble opinion.  You may be trying to push your six-figure salary into a seven-figure salary, or live in a lavish mansion, or reside in the hoity-est of toity neighborhoods, or have children whose only friends value them for their possessions, but the stanchion of enduring happiness is...

Well, you get the idea.  Or you don’t.